try not to confuse one defeat with total defeat.
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Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.
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| — | Victoria Holt (via shittyweekend) |
Good things are going to happen to you, and so are bad things. Really, truly great things and things so bad that there is literally no good to be found in the situation. The bad things can’t “ruin” the good things unless you let them, and the good things won’t make the bad things any better. All we can do in life is experience the good and the bad for what they are, and try to learn from our experience. It’s just as valid to feel sorrowful and bitter and angry as it is to be joyful, as long as you don’t let it distort the way that you feel about everything else in your life. Likewise, you can’t let unchecked optimism keep you from recognizing that, say, you’re going into a dark rapist-haunted alley. Your emotions are there to work for you, not the other way around. Being able to see a situation for what it really is, and not just what you’re bringing to it, is what maturity is all about. So don’t try to trick yourself into positivity, but when you have an opportunity be happy, enjoy it without reservations.
it’s kinda good, bein’ alive. it’s kinda nice, bein’ on top of the earth and seein’ things and hearin’ things and smellin’ things…
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Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how you wear it, how you carry yourself, where you walk, when you walk there, with whom you walk, whom you trust, what you do, where you do it, with whom you do it, what you drink, how much you drink, whether you make eye contact, if you’re alone, if you’re with a stranger, if you’re in a group, if you’re in a group of strangers, if it’s dark, if the area is unfamiliar, if you’re carrying something, how you carry it, what kind of shoes you’re wearing in case you have to run, what kind of purse you carry, what jewelry you wear, what time it is, what street it is, what environment it is, how many people you sleep with, what kind of people you sleep with, who your friends are, to whom you give your number, who’s around when the delivery guy comes, to get an apartment where you can see who’s at the door before they can see you, to check before you open the door to the delivery guy, to own a dog or a dog-sound-making machine, to get a roommate, to take self-defense, to always be alert always pay attention always watch your back always be aware of your surroundings and never let your guard down for a moment lest you be sexually assaulted and if you are and didn’t follow all the rules it’s your fault.
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| — | I might just copy and paste this so I can have this perfect answer ready when people say things like “but how does this “rape culture” actually affect women?” (via holdmecloser-tonydanza) |
Having privilege isn’t something you can usually change, but that’s okay, because it’s not something you should be ashamed of, or feel bad about. Being told you have privilege, or that you’re privileged, isn’t an insult. It’s a reminder! The key to privilege isn’t worrying about having it, or trying to deny it, or apologize for it, or get rid of it. It’s just paying attention to it, and knowing what it means for you and the people around you. Having privilege is like having big feet. No one hates you for having big feet! They just want you to remember to be careful where you walk.
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Sindeloke, on Privilege “Having privilege is like having big feet. No one hates you for having big feet! They just want you to remember to be careful where you walk.” Yes yes yes. (via mindovermatterzine) I know too many crust punks who would benefit from realizing this. |
You might say, “What a dreadful day,” without realizing that the cold, the wind, and the rain or whatever condition you react to are not dreadful. They are as they are. What is dreadful is your reaction, your inner resistance to it, and the emotion that is created by that resistance.
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| — | Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth (via cosmic-cum) |
‘I’m bored’ is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless; it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say ‘I’m bored.’
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| — | Louis CK Louis is heir to the George Carlin throne. (via suicideblonde) |
